21 things I learned in my 21st year

21 was a defining year for me, and that’s an understatement to say the least. Everything about me today is vastly different from me a year ago, from my career, to my relationship status, to my living situation, to my friendship groups and more. And I’m honestly a much happier and more easy-going person because of it.

  1. As much as you’d like to know what the future holds, life happens when you’re busy making other plans. Literally everything in your life now is completely different to how you expected it would be (it’s better).
  2. It’s okay to let your hair down. The world won’t end if you have a bit too much to drink and do some dumb shit for once.
  3. You can’t put a price on health. The recent specialist appointments that I’ve needed (a story for another time) have been costly to say the least but they’ve been the absolute best thing I’ve ever done – quite literally life changing.
  4. You had no reason to worry about getting a job after graduation. The nights I spent wide awake worrying about my employability were a waste of energy and I am very happy to be in my current job.
  5. If you don’t ask, you don’t receive. I don’t know what was in my coffee that fateful morning but the day I put my hand up during a guest lecture and asked how to get an internship with the speaker showed me the value behind this quote and gave me great experience to boot.
  6. Trust your gut. You will quite literally make yourself sick if you don’t. You know what’s best for you… even if it will hurt someone else, you’ve got to listen to that trusty gut!
  7. Being single will be the best thing that ever happened to you. You won’t realise it at first, but you’re too young to settle down!
  8. Friends come and friends go, but you’ll always have Lucy and you’re only going to get closer through this year’s ups and downs.
  9. Spontaneity is key – you’ve lived too long tied to a strict schedule and it’s time to break the rules a bit.
  10. You’ll always be busy (you like it that way) but there is a breaking point and you need to take careful steps to steer clear from burning out. Be selfish with your time!
  11. Don’t be afraid to try something new. I wanted to try boxing for the longest time and finally grew a pair and gave it a go in April and I’m absolutely loving it! #stressrelief
  12. If you really want to do something, try not to care what other people think. I’ve been wanting to get back into blogging but the usual “what will people think”, “what if no-one reads it” thoughts have been plaguing me. Well, I suppose it doesn’t really matter if no-one will read it because this is my place to put my thoughts into words.
  13. Socialising more will be the key to your happiness, and if the invites aren’t coming, make them yourself!
  14. Don’t be afraid of the consequences of your actions if you are truly doing the right thing for your own happiness.
  15. Say yes more often! Obviously don’t go doing things you’re not comfortable with but starting to say YES to seeing more friends, more parties, more spontaneous nights out (hellllllo Clem) did me a world of good!
  16. There are positives even on the worst of days. Something I started doing in January was writing down at least 5 good things that happened each day right before I go to bed. Even if I have to really really wrack my brains to think of something good (and some days it has seemed nearly impossible), I have managed it!
  17. [definitely still learning this one but…] things nearly always get better with time. On the darkest days of the past year I thought that things would never improve and I’d be stuck in that headspace forever… but looking back to what I was worried about on those times, definitely didn’t need to worry as much as I did. Got to take my own advice and remember this!
  18. It’s okay to lean on the people around you. There was a period in January where my friend had to text me “You can do this, you’ve done it before” literally every day and I honestly don’t know what I would have done without her support.
  19. You don’t need to work all the time to be successful. I am a self confessed workaholic and am slooooowly getting better at balancing my time, and am proud to say that the feelings of “gotta work 24/7” are fading (ever so) slightly.
  20. Don’t compare your life to other people’s highlight reels. #guiltyascharged and definitely still need to remind myself of this, but I tend to think that other people are out doing way more exciting stuff than me, when my life is sometimes pretty darn fab too!
  21. Your parents will still love you no matter what happens ❤ Enough said.

What did you learn when you were 21? Comment below!


Cheyenne xx

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